Lying is a part of almost all humans on earth. There is no point trying to deny this fact, and if you are still trying to, then you are already lying. Lying has become a part of our everyday lives, and there is no way around it. Lies can be small or big, but regardless of its size, a lie is a lie. Lying does more harm than good in relationships. One lie usually leads to another lie, and continues in an endless chain of trying to cover the first lie, which eventually turns into a mess and disaster with time. We develop morals often after making huge mistakes, and we decide lying is not worth our time. As always, though, there are exceptions. There are people who learn lying is wrong, but they still do it. It is not that they don’t have morals, but something just does not click, and some may be scared of telling the truth for the fear of losing or hurting somebody they care about. As it is often said, the truth is always bitter; so people prefer to lie to protect a relationship or something they care for. Some people enjoy lying and they become masters at lying, and they trick you into believing their lies. Whatever your reasons for lying maybe, the truth is, an addiction is an addiction; whether it is drugs, smoking or lying.
Here are the signs of liars:
They lie frequently: If your immediate thought is that the person you are talking to is lying to you, you are probably right. Trust your gut feeling or instinct. Compulsive liars will lie about anything and everything. Their lies are subtle and small, so they often go unnoticed. This can make it difficult to decide if they are telling the truth or not.
They are always seeking attention: If the person you are talking to seeks attention in an overwhelming way, he or she is probably a liar. Liars will often bend the truth as a way to try to impress you. They want you to notice them, and they will always fish for compliments.
They have self-esteem issues: Often, the reason people lie is because they want to avoid certain realities or perceptions about themselves. Lying gives them a sense of ego-boosting. They can be whoever they want to be, if they lie about it.
Their body language is telling: You can learn a lot about a person solely through his or her body language. For “beginner” liars, they won’t look you in the eye. They will look at the floor or the ceiling, but they won’t make eye contact. However, for more “advanced” liars, they will look you straight in the eyes and still lie to you. Some other body language signs are if they stand with their arms crossed, or if they turn away from you because they don’t want to look at you. In extreme cases, people will start to sweat because they are so nervous about lying. If they are fidgety and unable to look at you, they are probably lying.
Their stories always change: The problem with liars is, even they don’t know their own stories. The stories they tell you and the stories you hear them tell their friends sound like completely different scenarios. Or, they will tell you a story today, but that same story will be different tomorrow. After all, liars are great storytellers.
They are unable to confront the truth: Compulsive liars have an inability to confront the truth. They won’t admit to anything, even if you beg them. Once they have told one lie, they feel like it is their rightful duty to stick to it. Even if you know the 100 percent absolute truth about something, they will still convince you that you are wrong and they are right. They don’t want to confront the truth and admit they lied.
If these signs sound familiar, then go ahead and run as fast as you can. Walking away won’t be enough because every time you try to leave, their lies will convince you to stay. Don’t wake up one day and realize everything you thought was real was a lie. Don’t let yourself fall into the trap of living in a false reality. Trust your gut, trust your instincts and trust yourself because sometimes, those are the only things that are true.
By Mercy Kukah