In this 21 century, girls have one major advantage over anything their parents, grandparent and great grandparents ever had. The jet age telecommunication industry have made it easier for people to communicate with their friends, families and love ones. Ladies particularly are now able to send text messages to their love ones. In the past, women had to communicate with their loved one or crushes by traveling long distances to meet, or by sending verbal messages;and the privilege few through phone calls. Today, we are availed with different forms of sending text messages which makes communication so much easier and faster. Ladies can stay in their comfort zones, anywhere and at any time of the day or night to text their love ones. To keep a guy’s interest, your texting game needs to be on point all the time. You need to be relatively funny, confident, and flirty and you need to keep him engaged at all times; else he may get distracted. You can do amazing things with your phone, including wining a date with the man of your dreams. But only if you know what you are doing. Below are some texting tips every Lady needs to know
Confidence: Ladies are always taught not to make the first move. Most if not all ladies believe in letting the guy make the first move;whereas some guys really love confidence. Text messages gives a Lady the ability to take charge from time to time. This entails the Lady texting first, leading the conversation and even getting a bit naughty. There is really no need for you to act coy all the time. If you are dying to text him and are sick of waiting for him to get in touch today, make your move. Let him know that you are thinking about him; that act will make him feel on top of the world. Let him know what you want don’t always wait for him to text first.
Don’t answer with one word: There is nothing worse for a guy who puts a lot of effort into texting a girl than a girl replying with one word, or otherwise very brief texts or reply like, maybe. Okay, cool,fine and stuffs like that, it can kill the conversation and the guy’s moral. If it doesn’t kill the conversation the first time you do it,it will eventually. He will lose heart. Be interesting. Be talkative.Engage him. Don’t expect him to do all the work at all times, he may sometimes lack what to say.
Act cool: One of the biggest rules in texting is not to act needy or desperate. We understand that it’s not easy to come out as eager especially if out really like someone. But you need to play it cool and refrain from showing him your desperation. Once you do that, you make him feel he has won and he is in control. Some guys might not like it if you look needy because to them looking needy is not an attractive quality. In this case, you got to keep calm and wait for him to text you; don’t rush him. He will text when he is ready to text. If you push him, sure he might reply. But he might not be happy.Worse still, you might have put him off for good. Guys love it when girls are cool and can wait for a reply. It shows that you are busy
with your life.
Be you: Just be you anytime you are sending a text message to your guy, concentrate and be focus on what you are sending to avoid unnecessary mistakes. If you are not you, he will find out eventually.Don’t send him a novel: Most guys won’t be too impressed if you send them a massive, detailed text message that is going to take them more than one or two minute to read. Do not burden him with huge texts that explain exactly what you did during the day. Make your text message be as simple and strength forward as possible. Be specific, be funny, and keep texts to just two to three lines at the most.
Be funny: You don’t have to be a comedian and you don’t have to tell jokes. But show him that you have got a sense of humour at least. Poke fun at him, talk with him and tease him.
Be positive: No guy wants to wake up to an “I’m so depressed today,”text message at this stage. If you want things to develop between you and your guy, you need to be as positive as possible. There might be some serious, sad stuff going on in your life. But you don’t need to tell him all about it. Be light, be positive, be fun. Show him that you like to have a laugh. Give him a reason to want to text you. Make him be like, “Hey, I really want to reply to her today because she’s so much fun!”
Ask him questions about himself: It is really annoying whenever there is a lull in a text conversation. But hey, lulls happen. The best way to avoid them is by asking him a question preferably about himself. Guys love to talk about themselves apart from football and other guy’s stuff. So give him a chance to open up and keep the conversation going. Ask him interesting, open-ended questions that will be interesting for him to answer.
Stop texting when the time is right: Sometimes a text conversation comes to an end. It does not come to an end forever, but it comes to an end at that particular point in time. And if you can see that the conversation is starting to fizz out, don’t try to revive it. Just tell him you got stuff to do now and that you will be back later.Trying to revive a dying conversation can make things worse. What are you going to say? Are you going to say anything just to keep the convoy alive? It’s a bad idea because you might say something silly will wear him out or puts him off. Just know when to cut a conversation that is clearly dying, get on with your day, and hit him up later when there are new things to talk about.
Don’t ask if he is okay: Maybe he has not text for a while, don’t start by asking if he is okay that he have not text for a while and don’t also conclude by asking if you did or said something wrong. Never say this; if he has not replied for a while, he probably has good reasons.But once you start asking if you have annoyed him, you are on a slippery slope from which there is little chance of recovery. Don’t over-analyse things. Just accept that people have their reasons for not texting for a while. Trust that he will reply eventually.
By Mercy Kukah
