Don’t fall in love, or think you’re in love, just because you want to find yourself. Your identity is not in being someone else’s other half; but to be yourself! Don’t get so swept up in your partner that you become them. You don’t need to be the number one fan of their favorite band or read all the books they read. Keep your interests and hobbies and you’ll be more interesting to and interested in your partner. It sounds like a cliche, something your mom and girlfriends told you every time you were crying over a broken heart; but it’s true. You must love yourself before you can love anyone else.
Be comfortable with yourself, even when you’re having a bad day. Know who you really are, deep down inside, and know what you want to do with your life.
Being in love with yourself and having your life on track are not only incredibly self-satisfying; they’re really attractive qualities to a partner.
Your partner should never ask you to change if you’re truly loved. And if you truly love your partner, you shouldn’t expect them to change.
You got into a relationship because you liked each other, and you grew to love each other the way you are. Why would you need to change someone you love? Accept them as they are, and you’ll get that consideration in return.
Being yourself in front of your partner can seem scary at first. Waking up without any makeup on and your hair a mess! What about them seeing you when you’re sick with runny nose, bloodshot eyes and all.
It’s something you want to avoid as long as you can but you shouldn’t feel that way. When you’re in love, even the worst illness is a beautiful experience because it’s worth it. Your partner helping you through a messy episode or kissing you with morning breath is a major step towards your future, and it shows how much they truly love you.
You can’t be in a loving relationship if you hold back. You can’t use love as a bargaining chip. Don’t tell your partner you love them only when they do something good around the house. Don’t give them the cold shoulder if they make a mistake. You have to love them all the time, regardless of their words or actions, because true love is unconditional. If you give your partner this much love, you’ll get it and more in return. In spite of all this, do not forget that you need to love yourself.
Self-love is important, but it’s not something you should achieve and then throw away once you’re with your partner. You must stay in love with yourself for your entire life. If you start to dislike yourself or what you’re doing, you need to change just enough to stay on track, to stay true to yourself, and to stay and remain in love with yourself.
BY SHAMSIYA BARA’U AHMED