Marriage is a holy binding of two individuals. Marriage takes a lot of commitment and adjustment to make them work. However, once you are bound in a holy matrimony, the promises are supposed to be kept for a lifetime.
The real scenario, however, looks a lot different. Every passing day, we read and hear about incidences of divorce where the husband commits infidelity without his wife finding out and in some cases, the wife does find out and all hell is let loose. The relationship turns sour and ultimately, the marriage hits the rocks.
But have you ever thought about factors that induce married men to fall for other women? Let’s take a look at some of them;
More a friend than a lover: A man desires his woman to be his best friend, a good listener, a good talker and to be there beside him through thick and thin. Rather than being judgmental, she will accept him for how he is and will be his constant pillar of support. She will give him his own private space, yet be concerned about him all the time. She will love him unconditionally, despite all odds.
Fun & Spontaneity: Marriage requires serious commitment and handling of responsibilities. That is why it gets monotonous in a few months’ time. A man always likes a woman who can bring in some change. She can make their stay together fun and interesting. She may plan trips or surprise dinners and flatter him with gifts. Such gestures easily attract men. This also cuts off the boredom and makes their relationship unique from the rest.
Moreover, men appear to be getting more impatient nowadays. They hardly give the needed time to make a marriage work, probably because they are so busy as breadwinners or because they have too many other choices of willing women to choose from to fulfil their fantasies, increasing their chances of infidelity.
Independence & Confidence: Women who have a strong sense of individualism are usually desired by men. Men like women whose life is not simply confined around her children and husband alone. They admire and desire women who are highly ambitious and work hard to take themselves to the highest point of life. Such women are hardworking and do not like to be limited to just being a domesticated housewife. They pursue their own dreams despite being married. Such women have charismatic charm and are smart. These characteristics make men tick.
Pursuit of Happiness: Men love women who make happiness their primary concern in life. Such women can tolerate any and everything – pain, hardships, obstacles trouble – she always stays happy, keeps her family happy and keeps all problems at bay. Every marriage comes across hurdles and arguments, but the key is to work around them and find happiness in everything by considering solutions such as negotiation, communication and forgiveness. To allow bitterness to persist between you can result in the end of the marriage. Being understanding and compassionate sustains a marriage for a longer time.
He finds his favourite qualities in someone else: For no fault of yours, you may end up as unfortunate in this situation. Sometimes, men find some of their likeable qualities in other women apart from their wives. Their qualities surprisingly match and therefore, a great bond is formed between them. They connect effortlessly, can fathom the deepest truths inside them; understanding each other’s character, likes and dislikes; they find themselves alike in several aspects. This can lead the man to have an affair outside his marriage.
By Mercy Kukah
